How Does It Happen?

How does the drifting apart, and miscommunication happen?

Yesterday I was reading a news report about the couple that had their yacht stolen and were murdered. As I went the their website I saw pictures of them. I was shocked by how muscular and in shape the male owner had been. I commented to my husband how shocked I was that he was overpowered because he looked so strong (he was in his 50's and I didn't expect that).

Unfortunately my husband got hurt. You see, my husband works out and he is very strong. But I don't usually comment on the size of his muscles because that is just not a biggie to me. And you know how it is when you see something every day how you kind of stop noticing? Well, my not commenting on how strong and big he is meant to him that I thought he was just an average guy. That I kind of thought he was a wimp. That is so opposite of how I see him, and I am going to have to work hard to build him back up. I am so ashamed that I didn't see this sooner, and am very thankful to God for waking me up to it.

No matter how I feel, he needs to feel big and strong. It will be awkward for me, because I am not naturally one that will say, "Wow, look at those arms! You are so strong you make me feel safe!" I will have to learn to build him up in ways that are natural for both of us.

I will try to be much more sensitive to him and how he feels and encourage him. I have stumbled badly, but with God's help we will get back on track. I want my husband to not lack anything of value. I want my husband to be respected at the city gate, because he is confident and at peace. Lord, help me to change, and give me the words and actions to speak to my husband. Amen.

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Proverbs 31:11,12

Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

Proverbs 31:23